Now that I’ve written about my thoughts on Consent and Communication I thought I would link to some folks who I think do a good job writing about these issues.
I’ve also included several links that have the topic of submission and feminism. I’ve included these in the consent and communication post because I think they’re relevant to the topic. Specifically because all the articles talk about safewords, communication, the giving of control; they talk about how ‘consent’, and ‘submission’ aren’t taken, they are given. I think that is a huge point that everyone needs to recognize. I think the basic principles also extend to submission in general rather than just women. The same principles apply to me as a man who enjoys being dominated. So good reads for everyone, whether man, women, regardless of who’s dominated or being dominated.
The first is from Pandora Blake’s blog, home page: Pandora Blake – Spanked, not Silenced. She has a very interesting blog, definitely worth a read beyond this link. She has a lot of interesting things to say from an interesting perspective because she’s a spanking model, misc nude/kink model, she’s kinky in her personal life, she’s an activist on sex, sex-positive, and kinky topics, and she’s a good writer. What a combination.
I really like this article and the video in the beginning; she has a lot of good things to say. I will warn you that video revolves around the ‘pissing’ fetish. Let me first say, that fetish as a rule turns me off, nothing about it turns me on. However, I kinda like it as the subject of the video on communication because it’s fairly far out there as fetishes go, and it illustrates that anything can be ok as long as you and your partner are on the same page. So don’t let that stop you, it’s not gross, even for me who doesn’t enjoy that particular thing; read on.
The next is also from Pandora Blake. Minou and I talked some about how kink and the desire to be dominated related to being an empowered, intelligent, powerful woman. I don’t think the two are mutually exclusive at all. I love strong, intelligent, empowered women and wouldn’t have it any other way. As I said above, many of the same principles written about here apply to anyone who is being ‘dominated’. I’m going to write some posts on why I enjoy being dominated and also enjoy dominating. But here is one good article.
This one is from Adele Haze, also a spanking model. Sassy, to the point; she speaks to the point that someone identifying as ‘submissive’ (regardless of how long they adopt that label) doesn’t and shouldn’t just roll over for whatever someone else wants.
I found this article from a link on another blog, I haven’t spent much time on the home blog. This is a guest post written by a Mizz Honey J. Lot of good things to say in the article.
This one comes from alternet.org. A lot of interesting articles there, the Sex and Relationships section is all very sex positive. The rest of the articles come from sort-of an ‘alternative’ bent, some of it good; I’m not endorsing everything here.
This one is very sobering. I’ve never played in ‘public’ or attended any sort ‘play party’. I would like to though at some point. I think this sort of thing needs to be read, sort of in the same way that people need to read up on STD’s. More knowledge is better. Reality can’t be ignored, only dealt with. The home site is salon.com.
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